It’s National “Proposal” Day. Yes, you heard me right. We have July 4th, Thanksgiving, hell even national Donut Day, and today is National Proposal Day. This is probably one of the most obscure and crazy ideas I have ever heard.
Last year I pointed out the different types of “girl crazy” and played the devil’s advocate by trying to reason that sometimes it might not be all them. Yes, their actions are crazy. However, what interests me is what drove them to that point, or rather WHO drove them to that point. As a fan of “Dateline” or “Snapped”, I always find it interesting how people get to where they are, rather than what they have become. I’ve been burned many times before, but you don’t see me going around lurking in the shadows of Truck Stops ready to get my revenge on. Instead, I ponder watching these crazy TV shows with a bowl of popcorn and let the magic happen.
So back to National Proposal Day. Who thought of this concept? I highly doubt it was a male. If I was a man right now, I would find the largest boulder possible and hide under it. We already have Valentine’s Day, where we have to spend money to tell our significant other how much we care about them, instead of being there and doing that the other days of the year. So now, since men are apparently slacking, a group of spinster women focused on the ring more than the man created a holiday as encouragement?
Ladies, don’t get me wrong…I completely understand if you want to give a deadline. I for one waited five years expecting a relationship to go somewhere that had been dissolving long before I kicked him out of our Last Vegas hotel room. (That’s another story.) I completely understand the want to keep things on track and make sure you both are on the same page. However, is your communication bad enough that you have to go and create a holiday to give a time line? And if so, then WHY are you still dating each other? Before the house, the ring, and the 2.5 averaging kids we’re all supposed to have thanks to society’s notions, a relationship is the easiest it’s supposed to be. The communication should be crystal clear during this stage. If you already can’t talk to them about things you want in your life, then what foundation do you have to ask for something that signifies a union for life? Do you even know if you’re compatible?
Think about what you want out of your relationship. Talk to your partner. Don’t just assume. And for godsakes, don’t make a holiday to pressure some poor bastard into marrying you. I understand shiny things can be distracting to some. How long until that shine dulls, and you’re left staring at each other with boredom?
That only screams divorce and a lot of paperwork down the road.
Screw national proposal day…screw Valentine’s Day. Either be in a relationship full heartedly or don’t. If you don’t like how your relationship is progressing, then just don’t do it. No one is holding a gun to your head.
Spring’s almost coming, and there will be a whole new flock of boys with a cabin fever itch to scratch.